Online dating when to ask for number
When we did meet, he admitted that it seemed forward of me to give out my number the first night we started talking (but not with a negative tone).
When I explained that it wasn't my actual number, it made more sense to him.
When I discovered the disposable number app Burner, which provides free, destructible phone numbers for users to give out on online dating sites, at work, or anywhere else where they may not want to disclose their real numbers, I thought maybe I'd found a solution.
Perhaps, the trick to preventing online dating conversations from dying down was to move them over to text — and a fake number could let me do that without compromising my privacy.
We tried texting using Burner again, but I didn't receive all his texts, so I just gave out my real number.
The Burner team investigated the issue and told me the problem was probably on the other person's end, which is quite possible given that I didn't have this issue with anyone else.
As I started to realize these aimless conversations were the rule on dating sites rather than the exception, I wondered how to prevent them and save everyone time.
Most online daters have had this experience: you start a conversation online, it seems to be going well, then someone drops the ball and nobody picks it up.
Often, when a conversation dies down online it's not because anyone said anything offensive.
Surprisingly (given the "dating apocalypse" app's reputation), giving out my number sooner on Tinder successfully spawned a longer-lasting connection than I usually find online.
Again, I'm not sure what would have happened if we only spoke on Tinder, but over text, we had a substantive conversation over the course of several weeks before meeting up.
Using Burner's disposable numbers, I felt more comfortable slipping into texting sooner.